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Dance of the Puppets

Like a bat on a hot tin roof since August 2005

Monday, January 09, 2006

The Care and Feeding of Compliments

And here's another thing; compliments.

Lots of people don't really understand compliments, what to do with them and how to respond to them. Often the response to a compliment is to deny it: "You look great in that dress!" "What, this old thing? It's nothing special." Whether this is some kind of social false modesty, I don't know.

Other people deflect them with jokes: "Your hair looks nice today." "So what was wrong with it yesterday?"

But some people really don't know how to deal with a compliment at all. Say something nice to them and they either look at you blankly or pretend that they haven't heard. They are uncomfortable with compliments and have no clue what to do with them.

Somewhere, long ago I read where someone described a compliment as a gift, and the appropriate response to recieving a gift is to smile and say "thank you".

That works for me.

2 Comments:

Blogger Sleestak said...

Is it proper ettiquete to say "thank you" when the process server hands you the subpoena in the sexual harrassment lawsuit?

3:20 pm  
Blogger spitzig said...

I've never been good at taking compliments or giving them. The first is probably related to my general low opinion of myself.

7:54 pm  

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